Advice every teen should know.

-Treat others how you'd like to be treated yourself-
You'll never know what a person is feeling and how hard it is to get bullied and it can only lead to tears unless you treat people kindly.

-Crying doesn't make you weak-
You'll prob laugh about what you're crying about in 5 years. IDK about death...but It'll not seem as bad though.

-Respect your parents or whoever looks after you-
You'll need them in later life and show you're thankful.(plus you'd be parents one day)

-The only person you can truly trust is yourself-
Friends and family do let you down at times. Don't run to someone because you think it's easier, u'd be used and let down.

-Start loving yourself-
Only you can change you, if a bf or gf is trying to change you so much you don't feel you anymore, let them go. A true lover will love you for being yourself.

-Work hard at school-
At least to the point you pass exams. It will benefit you in life and easier to pass them when your young than years later.

-Don't party your dreams away-
Say you want to have a successful job in life, well it's not easy to get to the top if you party as much as you can. Balance school and social life. School should come first. If you got a big test coming up but, your friend invited you to a party...don't be shy to say "no I should study instead".
Always another party , but not really another exam.

-Life is too short to fret-
If you like a guy just tell him, the moment will otherwise pass and you'll never know if he likes you back....Pick friends wisely as if they give you too much grieve find new people to hang with.

-Create your own style-
Don't have to wear what your friends wear to fit in.
A true friend will like you wherever you go and whatever you wear. Wear clothes that suit you and not your social life.

Rule number 1 of life

Rule #1 of life: Don't take life too seriously and base/judge your life based on other peoples.

This means have as much fun in life as you can. It's ok to do different things to people you know. It's great to go down your own path of happiness. 

Basing your life on what other people achieve and set out to live their life isn't healthy.

Thinking something on lines of "What has [insert name here] got that I don't to be able to get an amazing husband/partner", it's only going to make you feel bad.

Life is there to have fun with and enjoy. Not living in somebody else's shoes e.g. mother saying she wants you to do a profession like doctor. (a high up job when you rather be a singer for example).

Push yourself to achieve goals yes, but don't get angry or sad when you fail on hurdle. Many more hurdles to over come in years to come. No point fretting. No point wasting time crying about not succeeding at one path. Simply dust yourself down and either try again or try a different path.

I could really use a wish right now.

I wish, I wish, I wish

How many times have we wished something to change but nothing happened?

How many times have we made a wish and done nothing ourselves to get the wish?

How many times have you wished and it came true?

If you wish something to change  don't you have to do something about it.
Like you have to buy a lottery ticket to win the lottery.

Keep trying different things and eventually you'll get to where you want to be.

A wish can give you hope for the future and keep you dreaming of better things. It wont make sadness go away but, keep you souring on for better future.

-BEING UNDERESTIMATED-

It's a common issue with being shy, that people think you are unable to do a task well ( e.g. perform on stage) because they see you as quiet and shy.

1-SHOW THEM YOU CAN-
Do the task anyway the best you can do it. 
Be brave and work hard to proof them wrong.

2-DON'T BACK OUT/DOWN-
Just because people say no to you doing it or think you'd suck...don't let that put up a barrier. 
Some shy people go into a bubble and hide away when people out shine them. Try and pop the bubble by pushing yourself into activities.

3-TURN NEGATIVE INTO POSITIVE-
Tell yourself "yes I can" when someone says you can't as your too shy. Every mean comment or expression given is a chance to make it into opposite reactions.

4-DON'T TALK BACK ABOUT IT-
Calmly go about your day doing thing you're underestimated for. Don't speak out and say "I think you'll find I can do that" ...simple go and do the thing. Actions speak louder than words plus don't want to be laughed at for speaking up when shy people find speaking out hard.

5-SET YOURSELF TARGETS-
Give yourself an achievable goal to get to. If someone says you can't join the debate team because you're too shy or be a leader of a group...then show them ways you can talk out.
Volunteer for activities that involve a good portion of it talking...e.g. in charity shop or handing out leaflets. (run for class president etc).

7-KEEP GOING-
Never give up and take easy way out. Quitting means the underestimater wins and is right.

8-GET SUPPORT-
Get a friend to help you get better at the task you're underestimated for...or just to give you positive reinforcement to keep going...e.g. positive comment or give you a cookie when done well.

9-HAPPINESS-
Do what you feel makes you happy. If you end up in tears then it's not right for you. Try enough to show the person you can succeed but not so you become sad by it. 

10-SMILE-
Stay happy and show the person who belittled you that their comment isn't getting to you and you aren't affected by it...even though you are inside. Your face should show you're happy, some people only wish to troll you and make you suffer for their happiness as shy people tend to be easy targets.

suicidal sadness

It saddens me that so many people out there are suicidal, depressed, cutting themselves or silently going through pain.

In this world people shouldn't have to suffer alone. Nobody has to feel so down that cutting or suicide is only way they can cope with it. It's a great shock to my system knowing someone close to me feels like this. All you have to do is be a shoulder to cry on, a friend to chat to or a person to welcome them into your heart.... not exactly pick up the pieces and solve their problems but, help them know you care and are there for them.

Some people might think being alone is better as nobody can hurt them.

Unfortunately it's not the case. They only go and hurt themselves. We are social creatures and the feeling of being alone is better, is unhealthy. Sooner or later you'd need help in life and nobody is there to help and you're left crying and struggling. 

 Say to the world "you don't have to put me down...I'm better than you" 

The world is a big scary place if you let it suck you in. Yes there is a lot of negative things out there.
There are a lot of great things too. If everyone was negative, depressed and thinking the world is too much of a struggle...nobody would get up in morning and it would be a stand still of life. 
Nobody to fill supermarkets for food, nobody to clean up, no friendships made and nobody to save your life when your ill as we'd all be too depressed to live.

So, moral of this message is to be someone's shoulder to cry on and if you're in unfortunate event of being depressed... look up at the stars and say "You don't have to out me down, I can get through this" 

There is always a star shining just for you. A star out there shining and guiding you on.

nyc bubble gum cat

Wouldn't it be hard to be a cat in new york.
Id be scared to go out very far if I was a cat. The busy life style would freak me out. Everything would be so big in big apple compared to yourself.
You'd need some sweet kitty swag.
Or even any big city to be honest.

Then again in a big city there would be loads of cats to keep each cat entertained. 

Aww that's nice.

But intimidating for a little cat in a vast place. 

I put quotes on social media summing up how I feel about you. Wishing you'd get the hint that you're the one I dream of being with.
Rather than talking to you because I'm too shy to comprehend the matter and think the guy should make the first move.
Instead I post statuses and wear what I call awesome outfits with unique style to get your attention////while I lust over you. aww man.

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At least I used too...until I found someone else and got over you.
Still think every once in a while what it be like if we got together. I just got to dream but, right now the new guy is awesome.

If you do post statuses about the person you wish to date and he/she isn't responding I suggest talking to them. Friendly conversation to start with. Just sitting back isn't going to get you anywhere...nowhere positive that is.
The longer you do nothing like talking to this person the more chance they will go and find another person to date. Right now they might like you back but because you do nothing to gain friendship they probably think you're not interested.

In short tag the person in the status...or be brave and chat to this person you dream to date.

Mint choc chip icecream make it okay.

I say I'm okay when I'm not. I want someone to pick up the pieces but no...I just carry on eating mint choc chip ice cream to make life feel better.

When people are quick to say "I'm fine" or "I'm ok" most likely they are not or they just want you to leave them alone.

So many people out there put a mask on life. They fake it to make it. They smile on the outside when they're crying on the inside. They pretend to be someone they are not.

It saddens me to think that lots of people out there are not true to themselves and hide away true feelings and selves. Some people don't have a shoulder to cry on or a trustworthy person to rely on/confide in.

Maybe you be that person who doesn't let a fast "I'm fine" or "I'm ok" slide.  Be someone who says "I know you're not".

Letter to 12 year old me.

Dear 12 year old me,

You feel like you don't belong being the shy one sitting on the outside. Believe in yourself as life is what you make it. So, talk to those you like but, don't worry if they don't like you for who you are because people out there will. If you like them don't be afraid to show it or risk loosing people from your life that mean a lot.

Don't let those who are mean to you get to you. Be strong and happiness comes and goes in your life and don't take family for granted.
You will slowly gain confidence and achieve wonderful things as much as people feel like they're getting in your way. Carry on living how you feel is right for you and bottling up hardships will not help anyone.
You are beautiful no matter what people out there say and though you look young your cuteness and sweetness shines through to those who love you.
One tip is if you dislike something that happens like someone saying your idea is bad then do not sit quiet and let them put a stop to your idea. If you think it will work then carry on as you are beautiful and only you know what works for you.

Keep smiling through and stick by the one guy who loves you most.
Lots of hugs your 21 year old self.