Rule number 1 of life

Rule #1 of life: Don't take life too seriously and base/judge your life based on other peoples.

This means have as much fun in life as you can. It's ok to do different things to people you know. It's great to go down your own path of happiness. 

Basing your life on what other people achieve and set out to live their life isn't healthy.

Thinking something on lines of "What has [insert name here] got that I don't to be able to get an amazing husband/partner", it's only going to make you feel bad.

Life is there to have fun with and enjoy. Not living in somebody else's shoes e.g. mother saying she wants you to do a profession like doctor. (a high up job when you rather be a singer for example).

Push yourself to achieve goals yes, but don't get angry or sad when you fail on hurdle. Many more hurdles to over come in years to come. No point fretting. No point wasting time crying about not succeeding at one path. Simply dust yourself down and either try again or try a different path.

-BEING UNDERESTIMATED-

It's a common issue with being shy, that people think you are unable to do a task well ( e.g. perform on stage) because they see you as quiet and shy.

1-SHOW THEM YOU CAN-
Do the task anyway the best you can do it. 
Be brave and work hard to proof them wrong.

2-DON'T BACK OUT/DOWN-
Just because people say no to you doing it or think you'd suck...don't let that put up a barrier. 
Some shy people go into a bubble and hide away when people out shine them. Try and pop the bubble by pushing yourself into activities.

3-TURN NEGATIVE INTO POSITIVE-
Tell yourself "yes I can" when someone says you can't as your too shy. Every mean comment or expression given is a chance to make it into opposite reactions.

4-DON'T TALK BACK ABOUT IT-
Calmly go about your day doing thing you're underestimated for. Don't speak out and say "I think you'll find I can do that" ...simple go and do the thing. Actions speak louder than words plus don't want to be laughed at for speaking up when shy people find speaking out hard.

5-SET YOURSELF TARGETS-
Give yourself an achievable goal to get to. If someone says you can't join the debate team because you're too shy or be a leader of a group...then show them ways you can talk out.
Volunteer for activities that involve a good portion of it talking...e.g. in charity shop or handing out leaflets. (run for class president etc).

7-KEEP GOING-
Never give up and take easy way out. Quitting means the underestimater wins and is right.

8-GET SUPPORT-
Get a friend to help you get better at the task you're underestimated for...or just to give you positive reinforcement to keep going...e.g. positive comment or give you a cookie when done well.

9-HAPPINESS-
Do what you feel makes you happy. If you end up in tears then it's not right for you. Try enough to show the person you can succeed but not so you become sad by it. 

10-SMILE-
Stay happy and show the person who belittled you that their comment isn't getting to you and you aren't affected by it...even though you are inside. Your face should show you're happy, some people only wish to troll you and make you suffer for their happiness as shy people tend to be easy targets.

suicidal sadness

It saddens me that so many people out there are suicidal, depressed, cutting themselves or silently going through pain.

In this world people shouldn't have to suffer alone. Nobody has to feel so down that cutting or suicide is only way they can cope with it. It's a great shock to my system knowing someone close to me feels like this. All you have to do is be a shoulder to cry on, a friend to chat to or a person to welcome them into your heart.... not exactly pick up the pieces and solve their problems but, help them know you care and are there for them.

Some people might think being alone is better as nobody can hurt them.

Unfortunately it's not the case. They only go and hurt themselves. We are social creatures and the feeling of being alone is better, is unhealthy. Sooner or later you'd need help in life and nobody is there to help and you're left crying and struggling. 

 Say to the world "you don't have to put me down...I'm better than you" 

The world is a big scary place if you let it suck you in. Yes there is a lot of negative things out there.
There are a lot of great things too. If everyone was negative, depressed and thinking the world is too much of a struggle...nobody would get up in morning and it would be a stand still of life. 
Nobody to fill supermarkets for food, nobody to clean up, no friendships made and nobody to save your life when your ill as we'd all be too depressed to live.

So, moral of this message is to be someone's shoulder to cry on and if you're in unfortunate event of being depressed... look up at the stars and say "You don't have to out me down, I can get through this" 

There is always a star shining just for you. A star out there shining and guiding you on.

Mint choc chip icecream make it okay.

I say I'm okay when I'm not. I want someone to pick up the pieces but no...I just carry on eating mint choc chip ice cream to make life feel better.

When people are quick to say "I'm fine" or "I'm ok" most likely they are not or they just want you to leave them alone.

So many people out there put a mask on life. They fake it to make it. They smile on the outside when they're crying on the inside. They pretend to be someone they are not.

It saddens me to think that lots of people out there are not true to themselves and hide away true feelings and selves. Some people don't have a shoulder to cry on or a trustworthy person to rely on/confide in.

Maybe you be that person who doesn't let a fast "I'm fine" or "I'm ok" slide.  Be someone who says "I know you're not".

Life is a game...

Life is a game we all play with rules given to us, some to be learnt and others to be followed or even broken.... AND we all dream for life to be our version of perfect but it never really is so. 

We have to learn to fit in like a jigsaw puzzle piece the best we can. 

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 There isn't really any easy way to do this life business. You can sit there and suffer in silence thinking 'I hate my life' or some other negative thought...hurting yourself is another way people cope. OR You can get off your backside and do something about whatever you dislike about life. Sitting there everyday wishing life would change in any way shape or form while going about life the same way you do everyday is stupid. It's the way many people go about life.

 Everyone is in a sea of people struggling for a place they belong. It's a game. It's unfair. It's a challenge. I am one lonely person trying to swim to the surface of the people but pushed down by the current or swarm of people leaping above me like dolphins out of the water.

 What I'm trying to say is that life is not easy even for those who you think is. (they're probably good at hiding it) If you dislike how life is going right now then try and change it. Move away from people who bring down life or change the way you think of life. p.s. I'm not saying I am winning this life game. I'm clearly stating you are not the only person who wants a perfect version of life for them.